Bullying is serious and can cause someone to feel emotionally and physically hurt.
- Physical bullying: Involves harming someone physically or damaging belongings with actions of hitting, punching, spitting, tripping, or taking and breaking someone’s belongings.
- Social bullying: Social bullying can happen without the bullied person knowing. It is intended to hurt someone’s social reputation and cause humiliation. This type of bullying happens when someone lies and spread rumors, hurts someone’s belonging to a community, encourages people to exclude that someone, or when someone mimics unkindly.
- Cyber bullying: Today technology is widely used with connection to social medias where people can be targeted online. Cyber bullying happens when someone writes hurtful comments online, intimidates being someone online, or excludes someone online.
- Verbal bullying: Verbal bullying is when people say or write mean comments to hurt someone’s feelings. This type of bullying happens when people name-call, tease, threaten, or taunt.
How Does It Affect People?
Kids who are bullied experience negative affects when it comes to their physical or emotional health. This results in:
- Depression and anxiety. Kids who are bullied may have feelings of loneliness and isolation, as well as a lost of interest in activates they once loved. These feelings can lead to greater risk of suicide.
- Changes in health. There may be a change in sleep patterns and a kid may feel like they have lost their appetite.
- Lower academic achievement. Kids who are bullied may experience lower GPAs, lower test scores, and less school involvement. It may even result in skipping or dropping out of school.
How Often Does Bullying Happen?
9% of U.S Students in 6-12 experienced cyber-bullying 20% of U.S Students in 9-12 experienced bullying 29% of U.S students in 6-12 experienced bullying
- Bullying victims are 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide
- Nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school everyday because of fear of bullying
- Only about 20%-30% of students who are bullied notify adults about the bullying
What Is My Personal Experience?
One day someone at school accused me of spreading gossip about her friend. I was not aware of this until she told me to stop spreading the gossip. I told her I never spread gossip about her friend yet her and her friend told everyone I was friends with in my grade that I did. People then started texting me to see if the rumor of me spreading gossip was true. I told them the rumor was false yet they didn’t believe me. I was accused over text by people I considered my friends. I even got a strongly worded text from someone and I wasn’t comfortable with receiving it. I told my parents and they changed my number. At school I tried to pretend the rumor didn’t bother me, but inside I felt like everyone disliked me. A close friend who believed my story said people were calling me a snake, saying I changed my number which makes me guilty, and saying I was mocking everyone. This did affect me socially and also affected my schoolwork as I felt insecure for three weeks about it.
But after those three weeks, I thought that I should focus on my schoolwork and not let this bother me. I started being nice to everyone even the people who believed in the rumor because I started to think no one should feel the way I did, as it was an awful experience. This experience showed me who my true friends were as I could tell who actually believed in my story. Eventually with time, others started to realize it wasn’t true as well.
So How Does Music Help?
During my bullying experience I used music to express my feelings. Hearing songs and focusing on lyrics that addressed bullying definitely made me feel better and made me feel as if I was not alone. These songs inspired me to write this song:
I wanted to deliver the message to people who bully. Make them aware of how the person being bullied feels, and asking them, do they enjoy watching someone being hurt physically or emotionally.
Listening to music also affects your mood. Listening to something uplifting can make you feel happy and inspire you to do something! The following two songs were the songs that I listened to when I was bullied and they both inspired me to come up with lyrics for my own song. By listening to the lyrics of these songs and of songs in general, they make you feel better and motivate you.
Who to go to?
Go to any trusted adult (close teacher, trusted friend, parent, relative, etc.)
Talk about it. Don’t be afraid to mention how you feel to your parents or a counselor.
Report it. If necessary, tell your school what’s happening. See what the school can do to help you and see what the consequences are for the bully.
Bullying can get out of control and become harmful. If you have any further issues go here for more guidance: https://www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/index.html
How To Make A Change?
•When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time
Stand up for someone. If you see someone who is being bullied or picked on, stand up for them. If you feel uncomfortable standing up to the bully or intervening in the situation, then go to an adult (teacher, principle, etc.)
Talk about bullying at a young age. Whether this be your younger siblings or students in an elementary school, the earlier kids are taught about bullying, the earlier kids will learn how unacceptable it is. Have a one-on-one conversation to address the importance of bullying and its impacts.
Spread awareness about bullying in school. Make posters and start an anti-bullying club. Create a school environment that is welcoming and open to students who need help.
Share your experiences with bullying. I would never want to bully anyone after my experience once I knew how it felt. So let people know about your experience and how it affected you. Teach others so they won’t do the same thing and make others feel that way.
Be inclusive and don’t exclude anyone! The more inclusive, the less people feel left out.
Learn more about anti-bullying organizations. Some examples of this are: TAB (Teach Anti-Bullying, Stomp Out Bullying, and NAPAB (National Association of People Against Bullying.)
Have a call to action. Some schools have bullying policies, but if your school does not have or enforce their bullying policies then speak up! Make your school know that bullying is important to create a safe school environment. Create your own set of rules, consequences, and actions taken when a bullying situation happens if your school or program does not have any. Create a petition to end cyber bullying. These are ideas on how you can advocate to end bullying and join the anti-bullying movement!
What Are Other People’s Stories?
You are not alone! I asked my friends if they have heard or experienced them or someone else being bullied. Here are some people’s bullying stories that were shared:
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