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Bullying: Have You Seen It?


Bullying is serious and can cause someone to feel emotionally and physically hurt.

Have you ever been bullied or experienced someone else being bullied?

Yes
No

 So what do you know about bullying?

What Is Bullying?
Bullying is behavior that is unwelcome in communities where there is an imbalance of power. Bullying includes aggressive behavior towards someone and has the ability to happen more than once.
There are different types of bullying:
  • Physical bullying: Involves harming someone physically or damaging belongings with actions of hitting, punching, spitting, tripping, or taking and breaking someone’s belongings.
  • Social bullying: Social bullying can happen without the bullied person knowing. It is intended to hurt someone’s social reputation and cause humiliation. This type of bullying happens when someone lies and spread rumors, hurts someone’s belonging to a community, encourages people to exclude that someone, or when someone mimics unkindly.
  • Cyber bullying: Today technology is widely used with connection to social medias where people can be targeted online. Cyber bullying happens when someone writes hurtful comments online, intimidates being someone online, or excludes someone online.
  • Verbal bullying: Verbal bullying is when people say or write mean comments to hurt someone’s feelings. This type of bullying happens when people name-call, tease, threaten, or taunt.

How Does It Affect People?

Kids who are bullied experience negative affects when it comes to their physical or emotional health. This results in:

  • Depression and anxiety. Kids who are bullied may have feelings of loneliness and isolation, as well as a lost of interest in activates they once loved. These feelings can lead to greater risk of suicide.
  • Changes in health. There may be a change in sleep patterns and a kid may feel like they have lost their appetite.
  • Lower academic achievement. Kids who are bullied may experience lower GPAs, lower test scores, and less school involvement. It may even result in skipping or dropping out of school.

How Often Does Bullying Happen?

U.S Statistics:

                                                                       

9% of U.S Students in 6-12 experienced cyber-bullying    20% of U.S Students in 9-12 experienced bullying       29% of U.S students in 6-12 experienced bullying

  • Bullying victims are 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide
  • Nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying, and 160,000 kids stay home from school everyday because of fear of bullying
  • Only about 20%-30% of students who are bullied notify adults about the bullying

What Is My Personal Experience?

One day someone at school accused me of spreading gossip about her friend. I was not aware of this until she told me to stop spreading the gossip. I told her I never spread gossip about her friend yet her and her friend told everyone I was friends with in my grade that I did. People then started texting me to see if the rumor of me spreading gossip was true. I told them the rumor was false yet they didn’t believe me. I was accused over text by people I considered my friends. I even got a strongly worded text from someone and I wasn’t comfortable with receiving it. I told my parents and they changed my number. At school I tried to pretend the rumor didn’t bother me, but inside I felt like everyone disliked me. A close friend who believed my story said people were calling me a snake, saying I changed my number which makes me guilty, and saying I was mocking everyone. This did affect me socially and also affected my schoolwork as I felt insecure for three weeks about it.

But after those three weeks, I thought that I should focus on my schoolwork and not let this bother me. I started being nice to everyone even the people who believed in the rumor because I started to think no one should feel the way I did, as it was an awful experience. This experience showed me who my true friends were as I could tell who actually believed in my story. Eventually with time, others started to realize it wasn’t true as well.


So How Does Music Help?

During my bullying experience I used music to express my feelings. Hearing songs and focusing on lyrics that addressed bullying definitely made me feel better and made me feel as if I was not alone. These songs inspired me to write this song:

I wanted to deliver the message to people who bully. Make them aware of how the person being bullied feels, and asking them, do they enjoy watching someone being hurt physically or emotionally.

Listening to music also affects your mood. Listening to something uplifting can make you feel happy and inspire you to do something! The following two songs were the songs that I listened to when I was bullied and they both inspired me to come up with lyrics for my own song. By listening to the lyrics of these songs and of songs in general, they make you feel better and motivate you.


Who to go to?

 

Go to any trusted adult (close teacher, trusted friend, parent, relative, etc.)

Talk about it. Don’t be afraid to mention how you feel to your parents or a counselor.

Report it. If necessary, tell your school what’s happening. See what the school can do to help you and see what the consequences are for the bully.

Bullying can get out of control and become harmful. If you have any further issues go here for more guidance: https://www.stopbullying.gov/get-help-now/index.html


Do right. Do your best. Treat others as you want to be treated.Lou Holtz

How To Make A Change?

•70.6% of young people say they have seen bullying in their schools

•When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time

Stand up for someone. If you see someone who is being bullied or picked on, stand up for them. If you feel uncomfortable standing up to the bully or intervening in the situation, then go to an adult (teacher, principle, etc.)

Talk about bullying at a young age. Whether this be your younger siblings or students in an elementary school, the earlier kids are taught about bullying, the earlier kids will learn how unacceptable it is. Have a one-on-one conversation to address the importance of bullying and its impacts.

Spread awareness about bullying in school. Make posters and start an anti-bullying club. Create a school environment that is welcoming and open to students who need help.

Share your experiences with bullying. I would never want to bully anyone after my experience once I knew how it felt. So let people know about your experience and how it affected you. Teach others so they won’t do the same thing and make others feel that way.

Be inclusive and don’t exclude anyone! The more inclusive, the less people feel left out.

Learn more about anti-bullying organizations. Some examples of this are: TAB (Teach Anti-BullyingStomp Out Bullying, and NAPAB (National Association of People Against Bullying.)

Have a call to action. Some schools have bullying policies, but if your school does not have or enforce their bullying policies then speak up! Make your school know that bullying is important to create a safe school environment. Create your own set of rules, consequences, and actions taken when a bullying situation happens if your school or program does not have any. Create a petition to end cyber bullying. These are ideas on how you can advocate to end bullying and join the anti-bullying movement!


What Are Other People’s Stories?

You are not alone! I asked my friends if they have heard or experienced them or someone else being bullied. Here are some people’s bullying stories that were shared:

Story from someone who has seen someone else being bullied
“In 8th grade, I had a friend whom everyone blocked on social media as a joke. She was really upset about it because she didn’t know what she was doing wrong. They would laugh every time she asked about it. I asked one of them why they would do that to her, but they gave me a lame answer and then I asked them to apologize. Although they really didn’t apologize I think for my friend, just knowing she had people standing by her was at least a little helpful”  –Anonymous
Story from someone who has seen someone else being bullied
“A freshman at my school whose secondary language is English, does not sing well and sings off key. But many people record him and tell him he’s good at singing just to record him and laugh about him later. Someone even invited him to their birthday party just so they could laugh and make fun of him. He doesn’t understand and people keep making fun of his singing.” –Anonymous
Story from someone who has seen someone else being bullied
“I was new, and this happened in the locker room before school actually started. Some kids were making fun of this boy who left the school who was overweight and different. They referred to him as ‘the big plum’ and they walked past me, laughing. Some people called him a pineapple. It was sad because people would laugh when he got his food and sat down. Watching him feel bad about himself and be in shrivel and despair feeling like he couldn’t do anything.”–Anonymous
Story from someone who has seen someone else being bullied
“My best friend was hurt by someone very close to her. I remember going to her birthday party and seeing another girl shove her against the wall because my friend invited people she did not want around. She was told by this other girl that she could not be friends with anyone else but her. The girl made her conform to her idealistic sidekick. Taking her to parties she did not want to go to and pushing her to date boys she didn’t know. She suffered under the peer pressure this girl was putting on her and became depressed and turned suicidal as she tried to kill herself last year. The other girl stopped bullying her physically but attacked her on social media. The damage the other girl did to her physically and online scarred her to the point where she was too afraid to speak her mind for the fear that someone would make fun of her.” –Anonymous
Story from someone who was a bully
“Me and 4 other guys were all friends. One of the guys, who I will now refer to as Oscar, was really smart and friendly. The only reason Oscar was able to be our friend was so that we could make fun of him. We would ditch him all the time and steal his belongings. Once in the changing rooms before gym we stole his shorts and put them up in a tree. We were mean to him, but now we are all friends and still keep in touch.” –Anonymous 
Story from someone who was bullied
“When I was in the third grade I had a crush on a boy I will now refer to as Alex. I was very shy around him, but I liked to play soccer with him at recess. I also liked to watch when he played in a basketball game. A fifth grade girl had observed my watching and called out to the entire school that I had a crush on Alex. She pointed it out to all my classmates and they all teased me about it. While this wasn’t a problem for me, the real issue was at recess when I stopped talking to my classmates. I was alone at recess a lot and that same fifth grade girl would walk over and say things like ‘you know Alex only likes girls who wear jeans’ or ‘your hair would look so much prettier if you wrote it down. I’m pretty sure Alex would like you if you did that.’ I started to wear jeggings to school and that same girl said, ‘those are not jeans.’ I always got an awful feeling whenever she walked up to me, and I felt vulnerable around her. i was always haunted by her unsolicited advice and the pressure to do what she said.” –Anonymous

If you have experienced or seen someone else being bullied and feel comfortable with sharing it, please share it with your friends!


Works cited:

“Bullying and Suicide.” Bullying Statistics, www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/
bullying-and-suicide.html. Accessed 8 Apr. 2018.

“Effects of Bullying.” Stopbullying.gov, 12 Sept. 2017, www.stopbullying.gov/
at-risk/effects/index.html. Accessed 8 Apr. 2018.

“Facts About Bullying.” Stopbullying.gov, 28 Sept. 2017, www.stopbullying.gov/
media/facts/index.html#stats. Accessed 8 Apr. 2018.

“How to Prevent Bullying.” Stopbullying.gov, 8 Sept. 2017, www.stopbullying.gov/
prevention/index.html. Accessed 8 Apr. 2018.

“Types of Bullying.” National Centre Against Bullying, NCAB, www.ncab.org.au/
bullying-advice/bullying-for-parents/types-of-bullying/. Accessed 8 Apr.
2018.

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COMMENTS: 18
  1. April 26, 2018 by Ms Griffin

    Great job! I loved how many stories you got from people. Great job using high quality resources!

  2. April 27, 2018 by Siena.Martin

    Well done!

  3. April 27, 2018 by brendan.gill

    These anonymous stories are truly powerful, Sydney. You’ve got your own personal story here, as well as solid data to give us a picture of the facts to compare to our own personal stories.

  4. April 27, 2018 by Alex Mummery

    Sydney, thank you for sharing your project. Beginning with a poll was a unique and risky approach, and I think it turned out to be a really wise decision. It causes people to have to reflect on their own experiences with bullying, which can be extremely challenging. As a result, you have already taken hold of the audience’s attention. Good for you for being the bigger person in your own personal struggle. It is really important to fuel all of your distress/anger into something positive, and it sounds like you did just that. While you did curate some resources, I am wondering how you can show support to someone who is bullied? How can you truly stand up for someone that is being bullied? Where do you find the courage? Thanks again for sharing.

  5. April 27, 2018 by Zach

    Hey Sydney,
    Great job on your presentation! You added so much personal and heartfelt feeling to it, I can really see that you fervently believe in your cause. I think that there were pieces throughout the presentation that specifically felt emotional. Thank you for working so hard on this project, I can see how hard you worked on this project!

  6. April 27, 2018 by Sydney Martin

    This is a great presentation, Sydney! You have lots of text, but it’s not overwhelming because it’s engaging with the stories and resources you have. I can see that you worked very hard on this project, and it turned out amazing. You really included everything anyone would need to know about bullying, from what it is, to how it happens, and how to stop it. Good job!

  7. April 27, 2018 by Julia.Cohon

    Sydney, this is a great presentation! You have a lot of helpful aspects to help other people understand. As high school students, what do you think is the most progressive way to prevent bullying? What is the best way to help someone who is being bullied?

  8. April 27, 2018 by Terri Nakamura

    Sydney, this is a wonderful project. Thank you for sharing such meaningful stories. Some people who bully don’t understand the deep impacts than have on others. Through advocacy and education, and through efforts made by you and others, I believe it’s possible to change our culture. Great job!

  9. April 28, 2018 by Anna Demopulos

    Sydney, this is a great topic and a great project. Bullying is such a pressing issue that is gaining more and more attention, but I really like how you incorporated music into this topic and several personal stories, including your own. Great job!

  10. April 28, 2018 by Cyan

    I really loved how you made this project inclusive of your own experience and of others, it’s really eye opening to the POV not many people get to see or understand. I thought it was really helpful and informational to include steps and what to do in cases of bullying, and I hope that everyone reading your project takes this to heart!

  11. April 29, 2018 by Portia.McKoy

    Hi Sydney. I first want to say that you presented a very tough topic in a great way. The information you presented was clear and concise and it was very easy to understand. I liked short the points were and your visual presentation was very well done. I wonder what you think are some ways we can comfort someone who has already been bullied and prevent any self harm.

    • April 30, 2018 by Sydney

      Hi! Thank you so much for the great feedback! I think bullying is a time where some people just have to get through it. From my point of view, some ways you can comfort someone who has already been bullied is talk to them. Let them express how they feel. If it’s been a really long time since they have already been bullied then try to take their mind off it. With time, everything will get better. As for preventing self harm, if it is serious then I’d talk to an adult about it or someone you know they trust that can help them.

  12. April 30, 2018 by Sydney

    Hi! Thank you so much for your comment! For someone who is being bullied, I would show support by simply comforting them. When I was having a hard time, I’d go to my friends and they’d support me and tell me everything will be alright. Also taking their mind off of what is making them sad really helps. I would say a way you can truly stand up for someone who is being bullied is go to the person who is bullying someone and say, “that’s not nice” or “please don’t say that again.” For your last question, people find courage in different ways. One way I would find courage to stand up for someone is by thinking of the situation as if I were the person who was being bullied at the time. How would I want someone to stand up for me? I would take that answer and stand up for that person as I would want someone to do for me.

    • April 30, 2018 by Sydney

      Hi this first comment was for Alex.

  13. April 30, 2018 by Sydney

    Hi! Thank you for the comment and I’m glad you liked the presentation! To answer your questions. As high school students, it is really hard to moderate bullying. However, if you see bullying happening a way to prevent it is by standing up or saying something. If you are close to the person who is the bully or know them, just tell them it isn’t nice simply will do. Also, tell people what bullying feels like because it isn’t a good feeling. The best way to help someone who is being bullied is comforting them. What I like to do is to take their mind off it, and instead make them laugh.

    • April 30, 2018 by Sydney

      This comment was meant to reply to Julia.

  14. May 01, 2018 by Isabelle.Franz

    Sydney! I am very impressed with your project. First off, I was able to learn more about bullying and how we can effectively deal with it not only as a bystander by as someone that may be experiencing it ourselves. Something that stood out to me was your incorporation of the song. I think this was a very unique idea and stands out. I also really like your “anonymous stories” part, as it effectively uses pathos to engage audiences more effectively. A suggestion could be leaving a box to have other share their stories!

  15. May 03, 2018 by Sofia

    Hi Sidney,

    Right away, I was impressed by the poll you had. I think that was a great way to make a statement. What happily surprised me was that, for now, those who haven’t seen or experienced bullying are less than those who have. Overall, I really liked your project!

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